As a somebody who is waiting till marriage, you’ve got a lot of pressure on you to find “the one”, so you’re going to have a tendency to try to push every relationship that way.
That’s when issues like those mentioned above are going to come into play.
You don’t see the person as a whole…you see the perfect wedding night/pure marriage you’ll never be able to have if you stay with them. How they treat you, who they are, and how much you enjoy them should be hugely important factors. Some of those other qualities can be even more rare than virginity. But given that the rest of the world is full of one night stands, casual sex, and “hook up culture”, maybe the fact that your girlfriend/boyfriend has only had sex with one other person in the context of a long term relationship (or whatever) isn’t so bad.. Appreciate that in the grand scheme of things, your girlfriend/boyfriend may be much closer to your sincere, genuine idea of sexuality than he/she is to those “other” people’s warped and soulless view of sex.
Sometimes the more you want a person, the more their sexual past bothers you.
As the one who’s waiting for sex (doing the noble thing), the fact that your girlfriend/boyfriend has had sex before with one or more people may start to really piss you off.
On the other hand, if they start feeling guilty about their past, then they didn’t deserve the beating you gave them.
They’re a person who really wants to make you happy and to be with you, and you feel bad for hurting them over something they can’t control now.
Mike is web software developer by day, and is in school to become a psychologist.
In his free time Mike enjoys running, biking, and movies.
If you’re dating somebody who’s accustomed to having sex in relationships, don’t forget the sacrifice they’re making to wait Mike handles all of the programming and design work for
Although he still writes the occasional article, he spends most of his time these days creating new site features and keeping everything organized.
If this leads to an epiphany, expect it to be short-lived, since We Want Our Jerk Back, regardless of how doomed it will make his future.