The number of dates prior to announcing an engagement may vary by community. In stricter communities, the couple may decide a few days after originally meeting with each other.Also the age when shidduchim start may vary by community.
In recent years, a number of shidduchim sites have appeared on the Internet.
The prospective partners either date each other or in stricter communities they go to a "bashow" or sit in.
A shidduch often begins with a recommendation from family members, friends or others who see matchmaking as a mitzvah, or commandment.
Some engage in it as a profession and charge a fee for their services.
In modern usage, Jewish singles will say that they are looking for their bashert, meaning they are looking for that person who will complement them perfectly, and whom they will complement perfectly.
Since it is considered to have been foreordained by God whom one will marry, one's spouse is considered to be one's bashert by definition, independent of whether the couple's marital life works out well or not.
The Philippines, being a country archipelago of islands and seas, have naturally wonderful beaches, some of which are famous the world over.
Beaches like Puerto Galera, Boracay, and the various beaches in Cebu rake in tourists from around the world all year round because of their pristine and cool blue waters and fine, white-sand shores.
A typical bashow scene is that the young man with his parents goes to see the young woman in her house to see if the prospective couple are compatible.
Both sets of parents talk to each other, and then when the setting is more relaxed, they go into another room, leaving the man and woman in the living room to speak among themselves.
The coral reefs are artificially made, but the whole place is very much ideal for swimming, fishing, and boating.