The emails give people a bird's-eye view of Crowley's thoughts and plans, writes Bryant.
And, best of all, are "a good way to start a conversation" that doesn't involve the cost of a babysitter or who forgot to make the reservation (again).
And the results revealed that couples who had met online were the most satisfied in their relationship, ahead of those who had met through work, in a bar or on a blind date!
Not so, says University of Chicago Booth School of Business professor Nicholas Epley.
In his study of 104 couples, he asked one partner to predict how the other would respond to questions on everything from the use of cash to biggest life regret.
A short break seems to alleviate that fear enough that they go ahead and admit the ugly truth.
Which, as we know from our own slipups, is the first step to apologizing—and figuring out how to avoid the inadvisable act next time. Both of you could sit there expressing opinions all night.
This doesn't mean you don't think interesting things or long to share them with your spouse.
The next time you stumble on, say, how to make a penny ball that repels slugs, make sure you share it with your husband, the gardener, by using a technique reported on by Adam Bryant in Quick and Nimble: Lessons from Leading CEOs on How to Create a Culture of Innovation.taking a catnap while your toddler plays video games on his cell phone? And not just to calm yourself down, either, though that's a helpful side effect.Experiments by Harvard researchers, writes Epley, demonstrated that when questioned immediately post-bust, people tended to lie due to their dread of punishment.You two need to decide on something big together: Should you buy that house? Or you could borrow a technique suggested by Chris Ertel and Lisa Kay Solomon, who consult with corporations on how to plan strategic meetings."One powerful way to establish context," write the two in Moments of Impact: How to Design Strategic Conversations That Accelerate Change, "is to create a large visual timeline." A company, for example, might plot key investments over the previous decade.Leigh Newman is the deputy editor at and the author of Still Points North: One Alaskan Childhood, One Grown Up World, One Long Journey Home.